Disqualification Techniques to Attract Women

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Disqualify women to get them attracted

What do you need to do to stand out, get attention, and keep women interested in you?

Most guys try to impress you by showing off their best traits. But you? You have something hidden up your sleeve: disqualification.

Disqualification techniques can make you more intriguing to women.

By hinting that you might not be easily impressed or that you have high standards, you can make them curious and interested in getting to know you better.

Let’s dive into how to use these techniques to attract women in a cool and effective way.

What is Disqualification?

Disqualification is a technique where you casually let a girl know you’re not trying to win her over.

Not a chance.

It’s what you use to subtly communicate that you are not trying to impress women or win their approval.

Your actions or statements may say that you’re not that interested in her romantically or sexually. Or maybe she’s not up to your standards. But you are. You’re just creating an illusion.

This makes you look more intriguing or a challenge. And therefore, makes you more attractive in women’s eyes. Showing that you are confident and have high standards.

When interacting with attractive women, there’s often an expectation that men will go out of their way to seek their approval or attention.

This dynamic can be reversed by disqualifying yourself from this mindset, ultimately making you more desirable and encouraging women to pursue you instead.

Imagine this: hot girls are used to guys falling all over them, trying to impress them. But when you disqualify yourself, you’re flipping the script. You’re saying, “I’m not here to simp for you. I’m here to have a good time, and if you’re cool, maybe we’ll vibe.”

It’s not about being mean or rude. It’s about being playful and showing you have other things going on in your life besides chasing girls.

By doing this, you create intrigue and make her curious about you. It’s like giving her a little challenge, and let’s face it, girls love a challenge.

So, next time you’re talking to a girl you like, try disqualifying yourself a bit. You might be surprised at how she responds.

Why is it important?

Disqualification is about showing false disinterest. It’s about being the “harmless” guy who’s just having a friendly chat, not someone actively looking for a romantic or sexual encounter.

By not showing too much interest or investment upfront, you keep things light and casual, which can actually make you more appealing.

It’s like saying, subtly, “Hey, I’m here to have a good time and see where things go. I’m not putting any pressure on you or expecting anything in return.”

Disqualification is key because it flips the script on traditional dating dynamics. Instead of chasing after every girl and putting her on a pedestal, you’re showing that you have standards and respect yourself.

This instantly makes you more attractive because you’re not desperate for her approval.
Think about it: when you’re too eager, it can be a turn-off. But when you disqualify yourself, you’re saying, “I’m confident and fun, and if you want to join me, great. If not, no biggie.” It’s about being the prize, not the pursuer.

Plus, disqualification creates a bit of mystery and challenge, which women love. It shows that you’re not just another guy trying to impress her. You’re different, and that’s intriguing.

When to use Disqualification

You want to use disqualification right off the bat, but only if the situation calls for it.

Girls are constantly sizing up guys from the get-go because, let’s face it, they have a lot of guys vying for their attention. They do this to filter out the noise and find someone who stands out.

For example, if you’re chatting with a girl and she mentions how all guys are the same, you can respond disapprovingly with, “Yeah, and yet all girls say the same thing too.” Shake your head from side to side, and say it like Denzel Washington says it.

Basically, use disqualification to show that you’re confident, have standards, and are looking for more than just a superficial connection.

If you let a girl qualify you first, you’re immediately on the back foot, trying to prove yourself to her. This can make you seem needy or desperate. Definitely not the vibe you want to give off. So, why not take control from the start?

By disqualifying yourself early on, you show that you’re not just another guy trying to win her over. You’re your own man, and that’s way more attractive. Don’t give them the power.

What are Its Disadvantages?

Using disqualification too much can backfire and push her away. You want to keep things light and fun, not make her feel discouraged. Find the right balance by showing genuine interest and authenticity.

The danger with disqualification is going overboard and coming off as too aloof or uninterested.

If you disqualify yourself too much, you might give off the vibe that you’re not actually interested in her, which could make her lose interest in you.

It’s all about finding the right balance and using disqualification to show that you’re confident and have standards, without making her feel like you’re not interested at all.

Use it sparingly. maybe just once, when the timing is right. For example, when she does something silly and funny. Humorously deliver your line, like “You did not just say that,” but make sure it’s funny and leads to a smile, laugh, or gasp.

Don’t go out of your way to disqualify girls. Instead, have standards for the girls you’re interested in.

And remember, only use disqualification when there’s already some interest from her. If she’s not that into you, using disqualification might push her further away.

Always keep it playful and light-hearted.

Types of Disqualification

Disqualify and qualify to seduce women


It’s like playing hard to get but with a twist.

Instead of chasing after every girl, you’re subtly suggesting that you might not be compatible or interested, which can actually make her more interested in winning you over.

It’s all about pointing out differences or potential incompatibilities between you and the other person. This can make you seem less available or eager, which adds a layer of mystery and challenge.

For example, you might mention that you have different hobbies or interests, or that you’re looking for someone with specific qualities.

This shows that you have standards and aren’t just looking for anyone, which can make you more attractive in her eyes.

In screening, both disqualifying and qualifying statements are used to create a situation where you’re not actively pursuing the her but instead letting them know that they need to meet your standards to win your approval.

Disqualifying statements

These are like statements that lead her to think, “Hmm, he’s not that into me?” which ironically can make her more interested in winning you over.

You might mention differences in your lifestyles or interests, or playfully tease her about something you know she’s proud of.

These statements create a sense of challenge and intrigue, making her want to prove herself to you.

Another approach is to make statements that suggest you’re not looking for a serious relationship or that you’re too different from the other person.

You can do this in a light-hearted, humorous way, like saying, “I’m a good guy, you know? My mom raised me right. I don’t go around hooking up with girls unless they seduce me. And sometimes, let’s be honest, I can’t help myself.”

This kind of playful banter adds to the intrigue and can make you more appealing to her.

  • “I’m kinda talking to someone.” say this when she makes jokes or makes you laugh.
  • “Like I’m not boyfriend material.”
  • “I’m not looking for anything serious.”
  • “My friends don’t want me to see you talking to me.”
  • “I’m not your boyfriend.” When she’s acting bratty and asks favors.
  • “You’re making me want to be gay.” Say this when she says something silly and funny.

Qualifying Statements

Using qualifying statements that suggest you have high standards or specific preferences, makes it clear that not just anyone can meet your criteria.

  • “Oh, you’re not into that? For real?”
  • “What do you mean you don’t like croissants?”
  • “There’s just something about girls from (local area). I’d rather meet women from.”


It’s like playing the comparison game, but in a way that makes her want to prove herself to you.

This makes her think that you’re into someone else, but slowly, and smoothly, you’re trying to get her attention.

You can do this by comparing her to someone else, whether real or imaginary, who may be more suitable.

For example, you could mention an ex-girlfriend (not too much though, women don’t like hearing about your exes) or someone else who embodies qualities you admire.

This comparison subtly suggests that she has competition and needs to step up to win your attention.

However, be careful with this technique and use it sparingly. Women generally don’t like being compared to others, especially exes.

Instead, you can use it when she’s with her other girl friends. Compare them in a playful way that makes it seem like you’re more interested in the other girl, but not so much that it’s obvious.

“Have you guys ever discussed who the hottest one in the group is? I bet you get the most votes.” Say this to the whole group while subtly pointing to the second hottest girl.

This can create a bit of jealousy and intrigue. This can make her wonder more if you have the substance and confidence to back up what you’re saying.

When you eventually make a move, it can lead to some exciting drama, with her asking you, “I thought you’re into my friend?” This adds a layer of excitement and mystery to the interaction, making her more interested in you.


Push-Pull is all about keeping her on her toes by alternating between showing interest and pulling away.

This creates a rollercoaster of emotions, making her constantly crave your validation and attention.

Imagine this: you take her out on a date, shower her with sweetness, and then you two end up spending an amazing night together. Naturally, she’s excited about the prospect of seeing you again.

And even if you haven’t spent the night together. She daydreams about you and texts you, but what about you? Your attention seems elsewhere, maybe with other things or even other girls.

This dynamic makes her think. It amplifies her desire for you and leads to overthinking on her part.

“Is he like other guys? Only showing up when they want something.”

Push-pull is a disqualification technique because it creates a sense of uncertainty and doubt in the other person’s mind.

By alternating between showing interest and pulling away, you’re sending mixed signals that can lead them to question their standing with you.

This technique subtly suggests that you may not be fully available or interested, which paradoxically can make you more attractive by creating a sense of challenge and mystery.

Let me explain more.

The push is when you’re sweet to her, showing her affection and making her feel special.

The pull is when you suddenly become distant, not giving her attention for a day, not texting, but perhaps updating your social media or engaging with other people.

Now, this can be a powerful technique, but it’s important to use it wisely. It’s risky. You don’t want to hurt girls’ feelings. Or maybe you if you’re into her, don’t want to lose her. Again, find the right balance between flirting and disqualifying.

  • “You’re really attractive, but I’m not sure if we have enough in common. Don’t get me wrong. You’re fun to be around. And I’d like to know more about you.”

By the way, you can create a smaller push-pull scenario with simple body language. It’s all about the theory of it anyway.

For example, while talking to her, you could casually turn your back or move aside to entertain other things or even talk to her friends. This subtle action keeps her guessing and maintains the intrigue and desire for your attention.

Role Reversal

Role reversal is all about flipping the script and putting the other person in a position where they have to impress you.

Instead of being the one chasing after her, you’re acting as if she needs to win you over.

This technique shifts the power dynamics in the interaction.

Instead of putting women on a pedestal and seeking their approval, you’re portraying yourself as someone who has high standards and is not easily impressed.

By acting uninterested or making women work to get your attention, you create a sense of challenge and intrigue.

This can make you more attractive in women’s eyes, as they see you as someone who is not easily won over and who has options.

Think about when you’re really into a girl and you can’t take your eyes off her. But is she giving you the same attention back? Probably not.

Well, that’s the vibe you want to give off—acting uninterested, just like most girls do to guys.

She might be getting attention from other guys, maybe even other girls because she’s a star in her own right. But you? You’re aloof.

It’s as if she doesn’t impress you. You’re not ignoring her completely; you acknowledge her presence, but you don’t give her the same level of attention she’s used to from other men.

It’s about adopting the mindset that you have options, just like she does.

There are so many guys vying for her attention, so why should you be one of them? You’re interested in other things, and she’s just another person in the room.

This mindset can be incredibly attractive because it shows that you’re not desperate for her attention and have your standards and priorities.

Word of advice, though: this trick is kind of a challenge and again risky. Don’t do it if she’s not the least interested. Only use this to amplify her attraction toward you.

Avoid stating explicitly that she needs to win you over, or that you’re a challenge, or that you’re not impressed by her, or why she should pay attention to you. Express these sentiments indirectly, using subtleties and nuances.

  • Instead of saying, “I’m not sure if I’m into you yet,” you could say, “I’m enjoying our time together and want to see where it goes.”
  • Instead of saying, “I have a lot of options,” you could say, “I’m open to meeting new people.”
  • “Hey, I’m just letting you know I’m not ready to commit yet.”

Future Projection

It’s painting a picture of your future that doesn’t include the other her, subtly implying that your life is already fulfilling and planned out.

For example, when discussing vacation spots, you could casually mention your plans to visit Paris or another romantic destination, adding that all you need is to find that lovely, sweet girl to share the experience with.

This creates a sense of longing in her mind, making her wonder why she isn’t the one you’re inviting to join you on these adventures.

By projecting a future that seems complete without her, you’re creating a sense of challenge and intrigue, making her desire to be a part of your life and future plans.

By the way, you can stock up disqualification techniques. Here’s an example.

You say something like, “I’ve been thinking about adopting a dog. It’d be nice to have someone who loves animals as much as I do.”

She may respond to something like, “Oh, I love dogs. I like them so much.”

Then you say something like “No way. My dog would get hungry if you take care of her.”

This response includes both future projections and the need to “qualify” or prove themselves capable of meeting those standards to be considered a good girl.

Wrap Up

So, what is disqualification (DQ)? It’s a subtle but powerful technique of showing interest while also creating intrigue and challenge by suggesting you may not be easily won over.

Why is it important? Well, it helps you maintain your value and avoid appearing desperate, which can be a big turn-off.

However, like with anything, moderation is key. Using too much DQ can backfire and push women away. The key is to find the middle ground—use it sparingly and strategically to keep things interesting without overdoing it.

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