How To Approach Women Who Are Walking in a Different Direction

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how to approach women on the street walking toward me and on the opposite direction

Imagine this scenario: You just finished a long day at work and are heading to the bus stop. As you walk, you spot a gorgeous girl from the opposite direction.

She has a stunning smile, a perfect figure, and a captivating aura. You feel a surge of attraction and curiosity. What do you do?

If you are like most guys, you would probably do nothing. You would just watch her pass by, admire her beauty from a distance, and wish you dared talk to her. Right?

You are not alone. Many guys are afraid of approaching women who are walking the other way.

They worry about being rejected, ridiculed, or even arrested. They think, “What if she screams that I’m a creep?” “What if I get in trouble with the law?” “What if everyone laughs at me?”

To approach a woman on the street while walking in a different direction, you must position yourself in front of her without obstructing her way. Politely stop her and immediately start a friendly conversation. Maintain a positive and open demeanor. Use a catchy opening line.

I understand. It’s not easy to be a man who wants to meet women in this day and age.

You have to deal with a lot of social pressure and negative stereotypes. But that doesn’t mean you must give up on your dating goals.

There are ways to approach women walking in the opposite direction without being creepy, weird, or rude.

How do you do that? How do you get her attention, spark her interest, and start a conversation with her?

That’s what this article is all about. I will show you the best tips and techniques to approach women walking toward you and make a great impression on them.

How To Talk To Women While Walking In The Opposite Direction

1. Stop looking at her.

You may be tempted to look at her as she walks towards you. You may even sneak a glance at her face, her hair, or her body. But whatever you do, do not stare.

Do not check her out from head to toe. Do not check out her “goods.” That will only make her uncomfortable and suspicious of your intentions.

Instead, look at other things around you. Look to your right or left, but not behind you. Look at the sky, the buildings, the cars, or anything else that catches your eye.

This will make you seem more relaxed, natural, and less like a predator.

But when do you look at her? When do you make eye contact with her?

The best time to look at her is when she is about a meter or two away from you. That’s when you have the best chance of getting her attention and making a good impression.

If she is on her phone, wait until she looks up. If she is not, try to catch her eye. We’ll tell you more about how to get her attention in a while.

If you make eye contact, then smile and say something to her. Don’t wait too long, or she will pass you by.

Don’t look away; she will think you are shy or nervous. Just look at her confidently and warmly and start a conversation with her.

But remember: Don’t check her out too much. A little eye contact is good, but too much is creepy.

2. Have a friendly, open vibe.

Before you approach her, you need to get yourself in a friendly and open vibe. This will make you more attractive and approachable to her.

Approaching a woman walking in the opposite direction is an excellent opportunity to talk to her. Why? Because she can see you coming, and she can get a sense of who you are. Unlike when you approach her from behind, she won’t feel threatened or surprised by you.

So, how do you create a friendly, open vibe? Here are some things you can do:

  • Smile, but not too much. A slight smile is enough to show her that you are happy and relaxed. Don’t grin like a maniac or frown like a grump. Smile as if you just saw something funny on your phone or are enjoying the day and the weather.
  • Think positive thoughts. Your mindset affects your vibe. If you are thinking of negative things, you will look tense and nervous. If you are thinking of positive things, you will look calm and confident. Think of something that makes you happy, like a joke, a compliment, or a goal. This will help you project a positive vibe to her.
  • Walk confidently. Your posture and movement also affect your vibe. If you walk slouched and slow, you will look insecure and boring. If you walk upright and fast, you will look arrogant and rude. Walk with a balanced and relaxed pace, with your shoulders back, your chest out, and your head up. This will show her that you are confident and respectful.
  • Make eye contact. If you avoid eye contact, you will look shy and dishonest. If you stare too much, you will look creepy and aggressive. Make brief and natural eye contact with her as if you are curious and interested in her. This will show her that you are friendly and attentive.

By doing these things, you will create a friendly, open vibe that will attract her and make her feel comfortable with you. She will be more likely to stop and talk to you and to enjoy the conversation with you.

3. Get her attention

Once you have created a friendly, open vibe, you need to get her attention. You need to let her know that you want to talk to her without being too pushy or rude.

Here’s a good way to do that:

  • Wave or gesture. Use your hand to signal her to stop, but also to greet her. Something in between a wave and a stop sign. This will show her that you are friendly and respectful and that you have something to say to her.
  • Say hi. Use a simple and clear word to get her attention. Don’t use a cheesy pick-up line or a complicated question. Just say “Hi,” “Hello,” or “Hey”. Make sure she can hear you but don’t shout or whisper. Use a normal and confident tone of voice.
  • Smile. Keep your smile light and friendly. Don’t smile too much or too little. A smile will show her that you are happy and relaxed and that you are not a threat or a creep.

This step should take no more than 5 seconds or even less. You don’t want to waste time or make her feel uncomfortable. You just want to get her attention and start a conversation with her.

4. Stop on your tracks

After you get her attention, you need to stop walking. Why? Because you want to have a conversation with her, not just a passing remark.

People are busy. They have places to go and things to do. They may not have time or interest to stop and talk to you.

But if you stop walking, you show her that you are serious about talking to her. You show her that you have something valuable to say to her.

When you stop walking, don’t face her directly. Give her some space and angle your body slightly away from her.

This will show her that you are not desperate or needy for her attention. It will also make her feel more comfortable and less pressured.

There are two things that you should never do:

Don’t block her path.

You don’t want to appear dangerous or threatening. You don’t want to make her feel trapped or cornered. That will only make her scared and angry.

When you stop walking, do it in front of her or beside her, but not in her way. Leave enough room for her to walk past you if she wants to.

Don’t chase after her. If she keeps walking, don’t walk with her in the same direction. That will make you look like a stalker or a beggar. It will also make her feel annoyed and harassed.

If she keeps walking, just stand your ground and let her go. If she looks back and stops, good. That means she is interested in you. That’s when you can walk back a little and join her.

5. Say your opener.

An opener is the first thing you say to a woman when you approach her. It should be something that catches her attention, sparks her curiosity, and makes her smile.

Your opener should also show your personality and your intention. Something, light, flirty, and would make her smile.

You should prepare at least 3 openers that you can use in different situations and with different women.

You should test them out and see what works and what doesn’t.

You should also be ready to improvise and adapt your opener to the context and the woman.

When you say your opener, you should do it with confidence and a smile.

Your goal is to make her smile back and see you as a friendly and non-threatening guy who is there to give her good vibes. You should do all this in a matter of seconds.

Here are some examples of openers you can use:

  • “Hey, I’m sorry to interrupt you. I’m just looking for my girlfriend, and I was wondering if you saw her.” Then, hand her your phone with the selfie camera on so she sees herself. This opener is funny and playful, and it will make her laugh and feel flattered. It will also show her that you are not afraid to tease her and that you have a sense of humor.
  • “Hey, do you know where the nearest Starbucks is? Actually, I just stopped you because you look gorgeous. I needed an excuse to talk to you.” Then introduce yourself and make small talk. This opener is indirect and direct at the same time. It starts with a casual question but then reveals your true intention. It will show her that you are honest and bold and that you find her attractive.

6. Get ready to exit

After you say your opener, you should introduce yourself. Tell her your name and something interesting about yourself.

Make small talk, make her laugh, and smile.

Use compliments, teasing, and flirting to make her feel good and attracted to you. For example, “You have a beautiful smile. I’m glad I could be the reason behind it.”

After you do all these things, you should get ready to exit. You don’t want to overstay your welcome or bore her with too much talk.

You want to leave her wanting more and curious about you. You want to end the conversation on a high note and get her contact information.

For example, “By the way, I’m on my way to a meeting. I let you on your way. But let me get your number.

And tell her that you’ll text her. Something random, weird, and memorable.

“Do you like spaghetti? We should get spaghetti.”

Wrap Up.

Approaching women who are walking in the opposite direction is not as hard as it seems. You just need to follow these simple steps:

  • Create a friendly, open vibe
  • Get her attention
  • Stop on your tracks
  • Say your opener
  • Make her laugh and smile
  • Get ready to exit

All this can take less than a minute, depending on how the conversation goes.

Don’t be afraid to talk to women who catch your eye on the street. Most women will not react badly to a polite and respectful approach. They might even appreciate your courage and compliment.

So give yourself some confidence, positive energy, and charm, and talk to any girl you find attractive. You never know what might happen.

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