How To Avoid Being Labeled As A Creep When Approaching Women

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How to approach women without seeming like a weirdo or a creep

Have you ever been called a creep? I’ve been there, and I know it sucks. No guy wants to be accused and labeled off as a creep.

But what exactly defines “creepiness”? What is being a creep or creepy behavior towards women?

Creepiness is when you make women feel, uncomfortable, awkward, uneasy, or embarrassed. She may also feel objectified, or unsafe by your actions or words.

You could be making unwanted advances, invading their personal space, or staring at them all without realizing it.

You may not realize it. But your behavior may send a scary signal to them. Some women have been harassed many times, and when men look at them differently it’s all they could think about.

You could just be admiring them from afar. But to them, you’re someone who could harm them. And women don’t want that.

You may not realize it. But your behavior may send a scary signal to them. Some women have been harassed many times, and when men look at them differently it’s all they could think about.

Even very shy guys who don’t express their interest may be labeled as creeps if they act weird, suspicious, or nervous.

You want to avoid this kind of perception from women, right? How do you do that? How can you avoid this unfair judgment?

In this article, we will explore some of the behaviors that women definitely find creepy.

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How To Avoid Looking Like Creep When Trying To Meet Women

How do I avoid being creepy when approaching women

Different women may have different opinions on what makes a guy creepy, so don’t let it bother you too much. However, there are some things that you should avoid doing as a guy, no matter what.

1. Stop checking her out

It’s fine to look at women. They’re pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, and you appreciate that. Nothing wrong with that.

What’s not fine is Looking at her boobs or ass. Like she’s a piece of meat. Like, god damn, you want to spank that ass, right? But…

You will definitely come across as creepy when you check out women inappropriately.

Don’t check them out from head to toe, or stare at them for too long. Like you’re checking out “the goods” while licking your lips and rubbing your hands.

Don’t ogle women with your mouth watering. Or make remarks or catcalls.

Trust me, it’s not a compliment. This is creepy and intimidating, and it makes women feel like they are being watched or stalked.

If you find a woman attractive, don’t just stand there and look at her. Approach her and start a conversation.

And here’s another thing that women find creepy. Some dudes may look, but they don’t have the moves. What do they do? They try to get closer to her but without making a move.

I mean, what is that? Are you waiting for a miracle? And that’s what we’ll discuss next.

2. Don’t hover

Stop hovering around women without making a move.

This means trying to get a woman’s attention for her to maybe make the first move.

Some examples of hovering could include trying to get physically closer to them. Trying to make women look in your direction, like faking a phone call or standing beside them. Or just lurking in their vicinity.

This is not a subtle or effective way to get their attention. It’s a creepy and annoying way to invade their personal space.

You may think you’re working up the courage to ask them out, but you’re actually coming across in a negative light. You’re giving off strange vibes, and people eventually pick up on them.

Your presence may make them feel uncomfortable, annoyed, or even frightened.

I saw this guy at the hospital lobby check out this girl. You know what he did? He sat beside her and tried to glance at her from time to time. He was so obvious.

He looked at her legs and her face. I could feel it become awkward and cringe looking at them. But he didn’t do anything. He just sat there. He probably thought he was being subtle, but he was actually being creepy.

Here’s another example. I saw a guy at the gym who was eyeing the girl on the treadmill. Out of all the treadmills, he chose the one next to her! He kept glancing at her, hoping that she would look back at him.

He was very obvious and very creepy. It did not work. She just left a few minutes later.

Don’t be that guy who hovers around women and tries to get their attention or check them out. Just take action. Approach them and start a conversation.

If you don’t have the words. You can be direct about it.

3. Don’t corner her

Following up on the previous tip, another creepy thing that guys do when hovering doesn’t work is to follow women around.

This means that they stalk them from a distance, or try to corner them in a secluded place.

I mean, I get it. You subtly follow her around. Maybe she’ll see you and approach you. Maybe she’ll talk to you, right? But no. It’s a creepy and threatening behavior.

This shows that you don’t have confidence and assertiveness.

To illustrate how creepy following can be, let me share two stories.

The first one was at a library when I was in college. So this guy pretended to read some books when all he was doing was watching a girl’s every move.

He waited until she got up to leave, and then he followed her around. I mean around the floor. What good does that do? He doesn’t even talk to her.

This second one is from Walmart, where I saw a guy who was checking out the girl at the register. She was an 8 and he stared at her like a piece of candy. Even a guy would feel awkward about his staring.

But what happened next was worse. He followed her even into the parking lot. He tried to catch up, but she quickly got into her car. He looked frustrated looking at her. All he could do was get back to his car.

Don’t be that guy. Don’t follow women around and try to corner them. Just leave them alone. Don’t do it. It’s stalkerish. It can be terrifying for women.

4. Don’t force commonalities

Ever heard a piece of dating advice that says, to find things in common with women? Some guys take it to the next level.

They try to connect with women by asking questions or making comments that are out of place. This makes women feel uncomfortable.

For example, don’t tell her she looks good, and then ask what makeup she is using. No guy asks that unless he is a makeup artist.

Don’t compliment her outfit, and then ask where she bought it. Why? You will not wear it unless you are a fashion designer or a stylist.

Don’t force the conversation to continue by asking random questions that have nothing to do with her or the situation.

Don’t force commonalities with women. Stop asking boring, generic, random questions.

Avoid running out of things to say when approaching women. Having a few lines prepared can help you avoid awkward silences.

Your opener is the first thing you say to a woman when you approach her. It can be a compliment, a joke, a question, or an observation.

For example, you can say something like “Hi, I just wanted to say that you have a beautiful smile”, or “Hey, I noticed that you are reading the same book as me, what do you think of it?”, or If she’s wearing a batman shirt “Excuse me, who would win in a fight, Batman or Superman?”.

Your conversation starters are the things you say to keep the conversation going. They should be intriguing, and relate to her or the situation.

Women like astrology, you could go with that route. “What’s your sign?” Then tell more about her sign.

Your exit strategy is the way you end the conversation, and leave her wanting more.

It should be something that shows that you enjoyed talking to her and that you are interested in seeing her again. It can also be a way to get her contact information or to set up a date.

For example, you can say something like “It was nice talking to you, but I have to go now. Let me get your number.”, or “You seem like a cool person, and I would love to get to know you better. How about we grab a coffee sometime?”, or “You are really fun to talk to, but I have to run. Maybe I can give you a call.”

5. Don’t try to save face

Have you ever talked to a girl, but instead of saying the right words and doing the right moves you stumble with what to do or say?

And that’s not the worst part. For you to salvage the situation you accidentally did or said desperate or inappropriate things.

For example, don’t try to be persistent when a girl is not interested in talking to you. Take the hint and move on.

It’s like when a shoplifter denies he pocketed stuff when he’s caught in the act and even on camera. “What are you talking about? I didn’t do anything. Just mind your own business.”

Don’t try to act more aloof to not seem desperate. Like desperately asking for her number when you don’t know how to continue the conversation. Even if you get her number, do you think she will reply to your texts?

Don’t use exaggerated jokes or forced humor. Or act nonchalant to save face and avoid showing disappointment.

Don’t quickly change the topic or pretend you meant something else. Like you just talked to her because you found her dress nice and you want it to gift it to your sister.

Don’t make it seem like it’s the girl’s problem, or blame her for being rude or stuck up. Like why she’s being a bitch, right?

Trying to save face makes the interaction more awkward and uncomfortable. It also shows that you are not willing to accept rejection. You’re being desperate.

Be honest and humble. If things don’t go well, you can back off or pause.

Reassess the situation. Say to yourself that you gave it a try and you will do better the next time you approach another girl.

You can also apologize and end the conversation politely.

For example, you can say “Sorry, I just broke up with my ex. I’m not used to approaching women for a long time. I was trying too hard. If it’s still okay, can I get your number, if not, I’ll be on my way.” This will make you look more mature and respectful, and less creepy.

6. Don’t be forceful

Another turn-off that men do when approaching women is to be demanding.

This means that they try to force or pressure them into doing something they don’t want to do.

This makes women feel uncomfortable. And if she’s already uncomfortable there’s very little chance to go things your way.

Some guys never stop demanding until the woman gives in. And that’s not the way.

For example, don’t be forceful when asking for her number, or a date, or a kiss.

Don’t be pushy and try to persuade her by saying things like “Come on, it’s going to be fun”, or “Don’t be shy, just give me a chance”.

Don’t act like you are entitled to her attention, or her time, or her body. “You’re making a mistake; you don’t know what you’re missing.”

Don’t be the guy who just won’t leave, even when she clearly signals that she wants to end the conversation.

I mean some guys even follow women even though they are clearly walking away from you. If women are trying to run away from you do you think they’re the problem?

You may think that you are being confident, assertive, or persistent. You may think that you’re just going after what you want, but you are just acting entitled.

If a woman says no, or shows signs of disinterest, accept it and move on.

Don’t try to guilt-trip her, or insult her, or blame her for being rude or stuck up. Don’t say something like “I’m trying to be a gentleman here” but your actions say otherwise. Or “You’re a bitch, you only go for jerks and assholes, not nice guys like me”. These are not the words of a nice guy, or a gentleman. These are the words of a creep.

Wrap Up

I hope you identified some common ways in how men can look creepy when approaching women, and how to avoid them.

However, we also want to acknowledge that not all women are fair and reasonable.

Some women may call you a creep or a weirdo just because you don’t meet their “standards”.

Women may judge you based on your appearance, your hobbies, or your preferences. They may mock you, insult you, or reject you for no good reason.

If this happens, don’t let it get to you. Don’t let these women bother you or affect your self-esteem.

Just walk away from women who belittle or condescend you. They are not worth your time or attention.

They probably talk shit about everyone, and they have their own issues and insecurities. Don’t give them the power to influence your life.

You now know the creepy behaviors, and you now know how to avoid them and not do them.

So if a woman still calls you a creep or a weirdo, even when you are being respectful and genuine, she’s an asshole.

That’s on her, not on you. Keep your head high, and keep trying.

There are plenty of women out there who will appreciate you for who you are, and who will be happy to talk to you. You just have to find them, and approach them the right way.

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