What To Do When A Girl Is Coming Over

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So you’re talking to a girl. Maybe you’ve gone out on a few dates. Then you asked her, and she agreed to come to your place.

You’re feeling excited, nervous, and maybe a little surprised.

This is a big deal for you. You’ve never had a girl over before. You never thought a woman would say yes.

So now, what are you supposed to do? How do you make a good impression? How do you keep her interested and entertained? What if things get awkward or boring?

Am I right to assume we’re going to have sex? What if I made a move, and she pulled back?

You have a lot of questions running through your mind. Don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.

We’ll share some of what to do and how you can prepare when a girl is coming over.

From preparing your place to choosing the suitable activities to making the move, we’ll guide you through the process.

Whether you’re looking for a casual hookup, a romantic date, or something in between, you’ll find some helpful advice here. So, let’s get started.

Here are some things you must do when a girl is coming over.

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What Do You Need To Do When A Girl Is About To Come Over At Your Place

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1. Clean and tidy up your place

The first thing you need to do when a girl is coming over is to ensure your place is clean and tidy.

This doesn’t mean you must scrub every inch of your place. Or make it look like a hotel room.

What it means is that you have to get rid of any clutter, dirt, or unpleasant smells.

Women are very observant and will notice if your place is messy or dirty. It will give them a wrong impression of you and make them uncomfortable.

So, before she arrives, do the following things:

Throw out the trash and empty the bins

  • Clean the bathroom and make sure there is enough toilet paper and wipes
  • Change the bed sheets and fluff the pillows
  • Do the dishes and wipe the counters
  • Vacuum the floor and dust the furniture
  • Use an air freshener or a candle to make it smell nice
  • Hide or remove any things that women might find weird or off-putting, such as figurines, posters, or magazines
  • Don’t overdo it with romantic decorations like candles, flowers, or dim lights. Keep it simple and cozy.

Doing these things will make your place more inviting and attractive for her and yourself.

2. Prepare yourself.

The second thing you need to do when a girl is coming over is to take care of your hygiene, appearance, and mindset.

You want to look good and feel good but also be yourself and have fun. So, before she arrives, do the following things:

  • Shower and trim your hair, beard, nails, etc. You don’t have to go overboard, but want to be clean and fresh. By the way, go for a number two before she comes over. And wash it!
  • Wear relaxed, but not sloppy, clothing. Choose something comfortable but not too casual, like nightwear—for example, a T-shirt with jeans or a Henley shirt with joggers or chino shorts. Avoid anything too tight, loose, flashy, or dirty.
  • Get a box of condoms. This is a must. Whether she’s looking forward to sleeping with you or not, you better be ready. Buy a box of condoms. Then, put them in hidden yet accessible places around the house. Let’s say at the nightstand or a drawer by the couch.
  • Mentally prepare yourself. Relax and try to have fun. Don’t stress too much about what to say or do or what she thinks of you. Just be yourself and enjoy the moment. Remember, she agreed to come over, so she must like you already. Be confident and friendly, and make her laugh.

3. Make her feel at home

When she knocks on your door, be hospitable and considerate. Make her feel comfortable and relaxed.

You don’t want her to feel any pressure or awkwardness but rather enjoy your company and your place.

So, when she arrives, do the following things:

  • Welcome her with a smile and a hug. Take her coat if she has one. Tell her to make herself comfortable on the couch. Tell her that you’re just finishing something in the kitchen or elsewhere and that you’ll be right back. This will give her some time to settle in and look around.
  • Offer her something to drink or eat. Stock your fridge with some drinks and snacks that she might like, such as water, soda water, juice, wine, tea, coffee, beer, ice cream, etc. Ask her what she prefers, and bring it to her. You can also prepare some simple food items that you can share, such as sandwiches, pizza, salad, etc. This will make her feel more at home and satisfied.
  • Be prepared for any needs she might have. Tell her that you have a set of extra toothbrushes or towels in case she needs to freshen up. Or if she needs a change of clothes, say that you have an oversized shirt that she can borrow. This will show her that you care about her comfort and convenience.
  • It’s also better that you have some sort of entertainment playing in the background. Turn on your TV or put some music on. Make sure it’s music she can relate to and something that can set the mood. Don’t turn the volume up too loud, just something that could blend in the background.

4. Have something fun to do together

You don’t want to just sit around and stare blankly at the TV. Have some options for entertainment that you can enjoy with her.

You want to keep the conversation going, make her laugh, and show her your personality. So, after she settles down, do the following things:

  • Ask her how her day was and what was something great or unexpected that happened to her. This will show her that you’re interested in her life and that you care about her feelings. Listen to her stories and share some of yours, too. Try to find some common interests or experiences that you can bond over.
  • Give her a tour of your place and show her your bedroom. This will show her that you’re proud of your place and that you trust her enough to let her see your personal space. You can also use this as a way to hint that you want to get more intimate with her… later. But don’t be too pushy or presumptuous. If she’s not ready or willing, respect her decision and go back to the living room.
  • If the conversation starts to slow down, suggest playing some games over wine. Games are a great way to have fun and break the ice. You can choose something simple and easy, like Jenga or UNO. The point is to have fun and not take it too seriously. You can also use the games as an opportunity to flirt and tease her a bit.
  • If the weather is nice and you feel like getting some fresh air, invite her to go for a walk in the park. Walking is a great way to relax and enjoy nature. You can also hold her hand, give her a hug, or even kiss her if the mood is right. Walking will also give you a chance to talk more and get to know each other better.
  • Watch some comedy shows or movies that you both like. Who doesn’t like to laugh? Comedy is a great way to lighten the mood and make her feel more comfortable with you. You can also cuddle up on the couch and make some funny comments or jokes.

5. Heat things up

When a girl comes over, of course, you want “something” to happen. Focus on flirting, teasing, being touchy and physical. But don’t be aggressive and push it.

If you guys are on the couch, it’ll be much easier. You can sit close. You can hold hands. Cuddle under a blanket.

You can look her in the eyes from time to time and smirk with a kind of teasing attitude.

It’s all about sexual tension. You want to increase it without doing too much to look sexually aggressive.

Once on the couch, is she letting you freely touch her almost anywhere? Kind of like what couples do? Are your hands on her legs or around her?

You can even position yourself so she can lay her head on your shoulders. If she does, give her a kiss on the forehead.

Don’t assume she’s going to have sex. I mean, it’s there because she came over. But don’t make sudden moves.

Women aren’t usually the sexual aggressors. But if you’re making out with her for like a few minutes already, maybe it’s time to spice things up.

Learn to read body language. If she’s looking at you intensely and wanting to devour you, then go for it. Close the deal.

But if she’s not yet hinting about hooking up, then it’s okay to pull back.

If you’re watching a movie. You don’t have to watch the whole movie. You can interrupt and like prepare food or snacks. And you have plenty of time to sexually escalate a little later.

6. Make her initiate sex

If you’re making the right moves in making women warm up to you, then women will be the ones to initiate sex with you.

It’s like you’re not making any moves on her, but slowly, you’re making progress.

If you’re constantly flirting, teasing, having intense contact, and purposely breaking it off, she’ll go crazy.

All you’re doing is making her want it without you making a direct move on her.

Once she’s had enough, she’ll be the one making a move on you.

Think about it. A woman coming over to your place. It’s like 80-90% she wants something to happen.

Now all you need to do is not fuck it up. Relax. Have fun with her. Show her your charismatic side. Pull back a little. An hour or more later she’ll be crazy why you aren’t making a move on her. Then she’ll jump on you.

But remember, there’s a limit to this. If she’s giving you clear hints. Like prolonged sensual eye contact, touching you sensually, and acting erotically, then you better make a move, or else she’ll think that you don’t like her and walk out.

7. Don’t be pushy

When a woman comes over, there’s a big chance that she’s thinking of having sex with you. The possibility? High, but not always 100 percent.

So when she comes over, make sure everything is in a playful and fun mood. Treat her as a friend even though you want something sexual.

If you did the steps above accurately, then there’s a high chance that she’ll be sleeping with you.

But sometimes things don’t work out. Maybe she has her period and doesn’t want you to know. Maybe you said something that she doesn’t like. Maybe she heard bad news earlier that day, and it’s just kicking in. Maybe she realized she didn’t want to be there.

Maybe you read the signals wrong. You’re about to kiss her, and she pulls back, looking at you weirdly. Asking you what the hell you are doing.

When this happens, what do you do?

Let her be. Give her space.

You probably made a mistake. Or it’s something entirely out of your control.

You don’t want to be pushy, desperate or forceful. When she wants to go, let her on her way. Don’t try any desperate or cringe moves just to score.

But after she leaves. Look back. What do you think happened? Is there something you could’ve done? Or it’s a her issue. But in any case. You’ll know how to do better next time.

8. Make her feel appreciated

If you have sex with someone, don’t rush them out the door right away.

Let them know they can stay over if they want to unless they say they’d rather leave.

Make the most of your time together by doing fun things, chatting, and laughing.

Don’t just focus on the physical part, but also enjoy the emotional bond.

Talk, laugh, and cuddle with them before you fall asleep.

This can make her stay more meaningful and enjoyable.

You want her to think she had a great and exciting time when she came over. And she will think about this every time. Making her miss you and wanting to come over, over and over again.

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