What To Do When A Woman Rejects You

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What should a guy do if he got rejected by a girl

Have you been rejected before? How did it make you feel? What did you do after that? Did it leave you angry, contemplating the urge to punch the wall? Or perhaps it left you feeling embarrassed, causing you to simply walk away?

Being rejected by women can hurt, but it’s a normal part of life, it’s not just you. Avoid dwelling on negative thoughts. Instead, work on bettering yourself and learn ways on how you can lessen future rejections.

In this article, we’ll explore the emotions rejection stirs and what to do after.

What is your experience with rejection?

Let me share a story, and let me know if you can relate.

I was at the mall by the food court. That’s when I spotted this hottie.

She’s a brunette with a killer body. Her face was flawless. Her full lips made me imagine that she was my girl and we were making out heavy.

She was texting on her phone. Maybe she’s bored. Perhaps I could get her number and show her how great a guy I am.

Man, I got so nervous. I didn’t know what to say. I rehearsed some witty lines in my head, hoping to impress her.

I decided to go for it. Fuck it. I’ll improvise on the spot. This is my chance to get a hot girl as my girlfriend.

I walked toward her, but before I could even say hello, she raised her hand and stopped me.

She didn’t even bother to look at me, still texting on her phone. “Sorry, not interested.”

Maybe she’s just playing hard to get, right? And I have to prove myself worthy of her attention.

I tried to speak, but she blurted out, “Pass.” I shrugged it off, but deep inside, I felt humiliated.

Thoughts raced through my mind. Did people just saw me get turned down? What if they made fun of me? What if she told everyone I was lame? I felt so ashamed; my face was red and sweating. I wished I could go away, to run and hide. I felt stupid, like a loser, like a worthless nobody.

What should men do when they get rejected?

what to do if a girl rejects you

How should you react? What should you feel? Do you need to say something to her? Maybe ignore her?

It’s okay to feel negative emotions.

Rejection hurts, and feeling sad, angry, or ashamed is normal. You don’t have to pretend you’re fine or it doesn’t bother you.

I remember when I was rejected by a woman I really liked. I felt crushed and humiliated. I wanted to hide from the world and never talk to anyone again. But I knew that wouldn’t help me.

I decided to face my feelings and let them out. I cried and screamed and punched a pillow. I felt much pain, but I also felt much relief.

I realized that I was not defined by the rejection and that I could learn from it and move on.

I know it’s not easy to deal with negative emotions. It takes courage and strength. But, like time, it will pass.

Don’t care too much.

You care, but you shouldn’t let it affect you negatively. Keep it to yourself for now.

Rejection could be harsh. But deal with it discreetly. When it comes to rejection, you should be aloof.

Yes, women will judge you first based on your appearance. She may say harsh words to you. She may just avoid you. But this should not get into your head. If she likes you, then good; if not, move on.

You can’t force someone to like you. Sometimes, rejection has nothing to do with you but with the other person’s preferences, mood, or situation. Don’t take it personally.

Kids throw tantrums when they don’t get what they want. They cry and get loud. But would you throw a tantrum when you don’t get what you like?

Be civil about it. Be nice about it. Tell her it’s all right, that you get it. Then, give her space.

Stop bugging her

Stop bugging her. Seriously, just stop. It’s not going to make her change her mind or like you more. It’s only going to annoy her and make you look desperate and clingy. Nobody likes that.

Imagine if someone kept talking to you after you said you weren’t interested. How would you feel? Annoyed? Irritated? Creeped out? Exactly. You wouldn’t want to give them another chance, you’d want them to leave you alone.

Now imagine if someone walked away calmly and confidently after you rejected them. How would you feel? Surprised? Curious? Impressed? Maybe. You’d probably respect them more for being mature and respectful. You might even wonder if you made a mistake.

So, do yourself and her a favor and stop bugging her. Just walk away. You don’t need to say another word. Just walk in the opposite direction.

Stop focusing on her

Trust me, I know how hard it is to accept that someone you like doesn’t feel the same way. I’ve been there. I’ve met girls who are so gorgeous that I asked myself if I’ll ever find anyone just like her. They’re one in a million, right? Turns out I’m wrong.

Chasing after someone who doesn’t want you is a waste of time and energy. It will only make you feel more rejected, insecure, and unhappy. It will also prevent you from meeting someone who is a better match for you. You deserve someone who likes you back, treats you well, and makes you happy.

I realized that a woman I liked was not worth it when I saw how she treated me compared to other guys. She only played with my feelings and never cared about mine.

I decided to stop contacting her and focus on myself. I worked on improving my confidence, my hobbies, and my goals.

I also met new people who shared my interests and values. I eventually found someone who was not only beautiful but also kind, smart, and loyal. She made me feel like I was the best thing that ever happened to her.

I know it’s not easy to let go of someone you liked. It hurts, and it takes time. But you’re not alone. Many people have gone through the same thing and survived and thrived.

You can do it too. You just have to believe that she’s not worth it, and that you’re worth so much more.

Avoid violence

Resorting to violence when rejected by a woman is a sign of insecurity, anger, and disrespect. It can harm the woman physically and emotionally, and it can also harm you legally and socially.

You’ve probably heard these kinds of scenarios in the news before.

Respect her decision. She has the right to say no, and you have to accept that. Don’t try to pressure, manipulate, or threaten her to change her mind.

Also, don’t blame her, yourself, or society for the rejection. It’s not personal. It’s just a mismatch of preferences, feelings, or expectations.

Manage your emotions. Rejection can trigger negative emotions like sadness, anger, or shame. It’s okay to feel them, but it’s not okay to act on them.

Find healthy ways to cope with your emotions, such as talking to a friend or doing something you enjoy. Avoid using alcohol, drugs, or violence to numb or express your pain.

Learn from the experience. Try to see what you can learn from the rejection, such as what you want in a partner, what you can offer in a relationship, or what you can do differently next time.

Seek help if needed. If you feel that you have a problem with anger or violence, or if you may need professional help to overcome your issues. Don’t be ashamed or afraid to seek help from a counselor, therapist, or support group.

Stop trying to tick all the boxes

Strive to improve yourself in a way that benefits you rather than aiming to check off specific dating requirements by women.

Because if you start doing things just to impress women, It’s not going to make her like you more. It’s only going to make you look desperate, needy, or fake. Women don’t do that.

I met this woman who seemed perfect for me. I wanted to impress her so badly that I did everything I could to make her happy.

I agreed with everything she said. I laughed at all her jokes. I complimented her constantly. I bought her gifts. I took her to fancy places.

I thought I was doing everything right. But when I finally made a move, she shot me down. She said I was too nice, too boring, too predictable. She said she felt no spark, no chemistry, no attraction.

I couldn’t understand what I did wrong. I thought I ticked all the boxes. But then I realized that I was ticking the wrong boxes. I was ticking the boxes I thought she wanted, not the ones I wanted. I was not being myself, I was being someone else. I was not connecting with her, I was pleasing her.

I decided to change my approach. I started being myself.

The next girl I dated, I expressed my opinions, even if they were different from hers. I made jokes that I found funny, even if they were silly or sarcastic. I complimented her when I felt like it, not when I thought I should. I bought her gifts I liked, not what I thought she would like. I took her to places that I enjoyed, not that I thought she would enjoy.

And you know what? It worked. She said I was more interesting than the other guys she went out with. More confident, more authentic. She said she felt a spark, a chemistry, an attraction.

It doesn’t mean you don’t need to do the bare minimum to interest her.

You still need to show some effort and initiative. You still need to approach, talk, and ask her out. You still need to dress well, groom yourself, and smell good. You still need to have some basic social skills, manners, and hygiene.

You should do these things regardless of whether you want to impress her or not.

Overall, you must remember that rejection is a part of life. Everyone gets rejected. Even the ones you think don’t. So go easy on yourself. Don’t blame anyone. Understand where they’re coming from. Try to better yourself. And be open to new opportunities. Don’t let rejection make you bitter, but make you better.

Reflecting on Rejection: A Self-Analysis Guide

When a woman says no, it’s a chance to grow. Consider these steps:

  1. Why: Ask yourself, why do you think she wasn’t interested? What’s the common thread in your rejections?
  2. Observe: Do you notice any common reasons if you’ve experienced multiple rejections? What traits do these women look for in men they like?
  3. Compatibility: Are the women you’re interested in consistently choosing partners who are markedly different from you? It’s essential to find someone who appreciates you for who you are. If there’s a mismatch in values or personality, it might not be the right fit.
  4. Compare: Look at the guys they chose. What traits do they have that you might work on? Are there qualities like confidence, humor, or wit that you could enhance?
  5. Improve: Focus on what you can control. While you can’t change your height, you can work on being more assertive, engaging, or considerate. Pick qualities you can change, like being funnier or more confident.

Rejection can happen due to different reasons, many of which are out of your control. Treat it as a stepping stone to become the best version of yourself for future interactions with women.

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